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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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But for "one second earlier or one second later," our lives are changed forever. (Published 6-28-11)


Trace from Texas writes:

Just over 6 months ago, my step-father of 30 years was killed by a drunk driver. I'm only using the word step, because in my eyes, it means he chose me. It was my first day at a new job and I had been driving an old family hand me down truck that had seen much better days. Throughout the day I had made some conscious decisions regarding the use of the truck, knowing I might need to call my dad to get me out of yet another jam. To make a long story short, after helping me get the truck running,my dad was following me home. A drunk driver struck him head on and he died in a matter of minutes. I drive this road twice a day, to and from work. Knowing in my heart what went on in my head that day makes everything so incredibly hard to deal with. People say that it was just his time, he was doing what he always did. But I don’t see it like that in any light. I can't see past the only reason he was on that road. I feel like it's easier to say when you don’t expect the blame.

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    May 2016
    Dallas, TX - May 13-16, 2016
    Princeton, NJ - May 13-16, 2016
    Seattle, WA - May 20-23, 2016
    Los Angeles, CA - May 20-23, 2016
    Regina, SK Canada - May 20-23, 2016

    June 2016
    Pittsburgh, PA - June 3-6, 2016
    Birmingham, AL - June 10-13, 2016
    Boston, MA - June 10-13, 2016
    San Francisco, CA - June 24-27, 2016
    St. Louis, MO - June 24-27, 2016
    Toronto, ON Canada - June 24-27, 2016

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