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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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Being "Stuck On a Painful Image" keeps us Stuck in the Grief (Published 12-13-11)


My Husband passed away just last year, I tried with all my might to breathe air into his asthmatic lungs. I watched as he choked and looked up and rolled his eyes. I tried and tried and could not revive him! Now I have that image in my head of his struggling for air. Over and over it plays. I find it hard to breathe now some nine months later. I also lost my step father and father-in-law all within several months of my husband's death. The grief is so heavy. I find it hard to get past everything! It all haunts me daily.I don't know what I should do. I have kept all my daily routines, working still, but nothing helps me with the heavy grief, crying, and the image of his not being able to breath.

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Workshops & Training Schedule

The Grief Recovery Institute ® offers Certification Training programs for those who wish to help grievers.

    September 2015
    Melbourne, VIC, Australia - Sept 3-6, 2015
    Des Moines, IA - Sept 11-14, 2015
    Gatwick, England - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Detroit, MI - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Houston, TX - Sept 18-21, 2015
    Los Angeles, CA - Sept 25-28, 2015
    Mexico City, D.F., Mexico - Sept 25-28, 2015
    Atlanta, GA - Sept 25-28, 2015

    October 2015
    Wilmington, DE - Oct 2-5, 2015
    Portland, OR - Oct 2-5, 2015
    Hobart, Tasmania, Australia - Oct 8-11, 2015
    San Diego, CA - Oct 16-19, 2015
    Louisville, KY - Oct 16-19, 2015
    Guadalajara, Jal, Mexico - Oct 22-25, 2015
    Edmonton, AB, Canada - Oct 23-26, 2015
    Denver, CO - Oct 23-26, 2015

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