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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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The impact of the death of a former spouse - often confusing and overwhelming! (Published 9-27-11)


I have just discovered my ex husband has died. Although he was my ex I still feel as if a huge part of my life has died with him. No one bothered to tell me, or his child that he was even ill. I can't stop thinking about him and wishing I could have at least spoken a few last words to him. I hide my grief from my husband. He has no idea how I feel and would not understand as he is very jealous man. I am confused and don't know how to cope with this. When I'm on my own I watch his tribute video and cry with regret. This can't be healthy but I feel so hopeless I don't know what else to do.

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If you or someone important to you wants help with grief: Look for a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist℠ in your community. The Grief Recovery Institute ® trains and mentors Certified Grief Recovery Specialists℠ throughout the United States & Canada.

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Workshops & Training Schedule

The Grief Recovery Institute ® offers Certification Training programs for those who wish to help grievers.

    October 2016
    Atlanta, GA -October 7-10, 2016
    Bend, OR - October 7-10, 2016
    Rochester, NY - October 7-10, 2016
    Toronto, ON, Canada - October 14-17, 2016
    Scottsdale, AZ - October 14-17, 2016
    Sydney, NSW, Australia - October 15-18, 2016
    Kansas City, KS - October 28-31, 2016
    November 2016
    Reading, England - November 4-7, 2016
    San Diego, CA - November 11-14, 2016
    Nashville, TN - November 11-14, 2016
    Denver, CO - November 11-14, 2016
    Edmonton, AB, Canada - Nov 18-21, 2016
    Los Angeles, CA - November 18-21, 2016
    Princeton, NJ - November 18-21, 2016

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